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Tired of sitting through useless professional development (PD)?
Tired of staring at the cell phone and wishing you were
in the classroom working on lesson plans and organizing materials?

It’s time to TAKE CONTROL of your own professional development!

I realize that it will be mandated that some of your PD time this year, as always, be used to “educate” you about the meaningless, time-consuming hoops you will have to jump through this year that will be gone by next year. BUT, if your school has any more professional development time left, might I suggest doing some PD that WILL MAKE YOUR LIFE EASIER rather than harder. Every skill, routine, and procedure that I show you through systematic and explicit instruction will give you MORE TIME and MORE ENERGY that you can use to ACTUALLY TEACH and ENJOY YOUR JOB!!!! I offer a money back guarantee that during my first session with your school I can show you how to NEVER ARGUE WITH A STUDENT EVER AGAIN. What would your school be like if there were never arguments between adults and students? Might it be worth it to find out? Right now, today, sign up to get information about how I can come to your school, live and in person, to show you how to take control of your profession, your classroom and your life!

Principals and Superintendents: Give this gift to your teachers and to yourselves. I can show your teachers how to teach without needing to utilize an administrator for discipline issues. You can find out what it’s like to preside over a district where every teacher is seen as the ultimate disciplinary figure in their own classroom. I can show you how to use minimal time and energy when dealing with discipline on the RARE occasion that you have to involve yourself with it! Sign up today to change the lives of all stakeholders in your district forever.

Parents: Tired of working too hard to set limits with your kids? Sign up today to invite me to work with your PTO, PTA or other parent organization. This can be done in tandem with educator training at your school.

I can’t wait to get started! Let’s do it!

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Read the article in the Washington Post yet?


Feel free to look around to learn more about the site and about me, The Kid Whisperer™!
I started this blog for one reason: to help adults to more effectively deal with kids. This blog is for teachers, parents, principals, school nurses, teacher’s aides, lunch ladies, lunch mannies, school custodians – basically anyone who interacts with children. By answering your questions about the particular issues you are having, I will be able to show you simple skills you can use to increase self-confidence while making the children in your care compliant and respectful.
Stop laughing. I’m serious! You don’t believe me? Try me. Simply ask a question via Facebook. Please keep your questions brief, as I have a short attention span. I will be selecting one to three questions per week to answer here on my blog or on facebook. If I don’t get to your question right away- please be patient! I am a 3rd grade teacher, college instructor, small business owner, and behavioral consultant.
The other reason is this: I developed this site because there is absolutely no other place on the whole wide internet that can give you real, skill-based, usable advice about how to effectively set and enforce limits with children in a calm and loving way. Other websites, or pre-electrical paper-based single format websites, also known as “books,” often give us lots of theory or tips about how to manage kids, but never offer any skills that we can actually use! They either give us a useless theory about kids created by a guy who never actually dealt with a single kid in his entire life, or they give us a cute little tip about what to do with a kid in one specific situation that is only helpful in that exact situation. These systems are designed to keep you coming back for more advice, not to teach you practical skills you can use in real life where no two situations are the same.
Using Love and Logic® techniques, combined with Kid Whisperer™ methods, I have dealt with thousands of kids and helped hundreds of adults to be the most strict and most loving adults they can be. These methods give adults tools that result in thoughtful, self confident, respectful children. Children with parents or teachers using these skills simply end up making better choices! It is my hope that I am able to continue to facilitate this through my blog, one question at a time.
So this is for you: whether you are in education or knee-deep into parenting, I want this blog to be where you can come to get skills you can use in any situation with even the most challenging kids.june-2011-1061.jpg
Feel free to “like” me on Facebook. Tell people about the blog on Facebook or at the supermarket.  If you think this could be helpful for you, subscribe to my rss blog feed so that you will be alerted to any answers to questions here on askthekidwhisperer.com!
So ask me a question already!
–Scott Ervin, The Kid Whisperer™

33 thoughts on “Welcome

  1. This man has made this largest impact on my life anyone could. As a former teacher and a close friend I say any advice given to you by this man is not to be taken lightly, You are amazing

    • HEY MARVIN! It is great to hear from you. Your words mean so much! I emailed you! I can’t wait to catch up. I always recall fondly the year(s?) of your aunt dropping you at my house and me driving us to school at East End. Omelette Buddies for Life!!!!!

    • Hey, Dwyer! You have come to the right place. What I can tell you is to work with me as much as possible! Please peruse my parent blog. I have worked as a teacher, principal and discipline specialist with hundreds of kids like your son and I have bullet- proof procedures, routines, and rituals to use to get him to exhibit the behaviors you want him to exhibit. I would say you best course of action would be to hire me to work one on one with you. You can email me at servin@ervineducationalconsulting.com. Other than that, I can answer specific questions about specific questions here! Either way, I am here to help!!!

  2. I happened to catch your column entitled 18 y/o needs to clean smelly room. When I quit laughing… I had a mother that was very creative at making her point. If she ask you to do something and you choose not to do it when she ask. Well ya might find your clothes on the front lawn or muddy boots in your bed Etc. or if you said something disrespectful you might be popped across your mouth. Something else my mom was fond of saying was people treat you like “you” let them. The point is still true. …loved your advice to Alice. Let me just say it’s time for parents to stop letting their kids run over them…I remember what my mother did when I was 17 and I thought it was ok to stay out all night.. It made me who I am today. She gave me a choice “tell” or “move”, In my stupid arrogance I moved. That was very difficult for her. But very necessary for me to learn respect of authority hers and everyone elses

    • Jackie, thank you for sharing your story! Isn’t it interesting how so-called “bad-things” happening to us help us to improve more than the “good things” do? I appreciate your kind words and your support! Feel free to share our work with others so that we can spread the word about allowing kids to struggle in order to become stronger and more resilient people! Thanks, again!

  3. Dear Kid Whisperer,

    First, thank you for taking your time to answer our questions, I know your time is stretched thin! Your responses are helping to reinvigorate legions of teachers and make us even better educators!

    I am a 4th grade teacher and I have heard from numerous staff members (classroom teachers, specials staff, lunch room monitors, etc.) that the class coming up is incredibly talkative. They are loud and they blurt out and don’t listen to staff or even to each other and just are non-stop talkers! I worked hard last year to get to know some of the kiddos and develop relationships with some of the students when they were in 3rd grade. However, I am worried that I don’t have enough tools in my “tool belt” to address the talkative nature of the class. I would love some ideas that would help address this problem in whole group and when students are working in partners and small groups. I.E. when students are working together and instead of completing the work they are using the time to chit-chat and during whole groups lessons talking while a lesson is taking place.

    Again, thank you for your time and I look forward to hearing from you!


    • Thanks, E.G., for your kind words. This is the way that I can best help the world, and I am so happy to be of assistance. I know that I can help you here.

      What you are describing is what I call a Level 1 “Tsunami Class”. Classes, or grade levels, are like waves that hit teachers every year. How hard they hit a given teacher depends on how they have been trained at home and at school to exhibit certain behaviors. Occasionally, certain classes develop negative group personalities based on whether or not their negative behaviors are made functional by their teachers. Without explicit, systematically taught kid management instruction, teachers and schools are completely at the mercy of the personalities and dynamics of children in any given class. A “perfect storm” of constant negative behaviors can brew in a class to the point that you could get a “Level 5 Tsunami Class”. With these groups, if the behaviors go unchecked with explicit procedures, you will have physical fights every day, constant tattling, sneaky behaviors (vandalism, pranks, kicking under the table), and issues with lying, just to name a few.

      Our job as educators is to change the weather so that the tsunamis turn back into regular waves.

      My first experience with tsunami classes was when I was part of one in elementary school. I would call us a Level 3. The waters became a little rough in 3rd grade and by the end of 4th, when things became extremely crazy, 4 kids were expelled. I remained, only because this was a private school and I had two well-behaved (full tuition paying) younger sisters. Unfortunately for our school, I was something of a ringleader and by the time we got to eighth grade, the behaviors in our room were so bad that all but 8 of my classmates left our school so that they could actually get an education.

      I can show you how to deal with a Level 5, and I think that this may be the subject of my first podcast, but I will show you how to deal with a Level 1 because it sounds like that’s all you are going to be dealing with. Level 1s are relatively easy to retrain because you are only dealing with one behavior (talking when they shouldn’t be), although this seems to be an issue throughout the day. I’m going to give you some general rules, then I am going to give you some interlinks for how to deal with these kids during certain situations and times throughout the day, and then I am going to tell you about some resources that are on their way that will hopefully be out before the end of the summer.

      First, here are some general rules for dealing with any level of Tsunami Class:
      1) Never Let Them See You Sweat: I will be giving you tools for your tool belt that WILL WORK, so that you can minimize worry about behaviors, so that this will actually be possible. These kids have been trained by their teachers up to this point to talk whenever they want, partly because they showed them with their frustration and anger that the kids were in control.
      2) Set the Expectation Once PER YEAR, then calmly take action: Past teachers have warned, lectured and gotten angry. You will not have to because you will have my tools ready to go.
      3) Don’t try to get anyone else to use these procedures: People don’t take unsolicited advice, even when it could save their life. Once people (librarians, lunch monitors, specials teachers) see how well this is working in the hallway and you tell them how this class is now silent when you want them to be, they will ask you how you are doing this. Only then do I want you to show them behind the curtain!
      4) These kids are going to suffer MIGHTILY for the first couple of months of the school year: Don’t expect to get much done academically for a good long while! You are going to be retraining these kids to be the kind of people that people want to be around. This will take practice, and practice takes time!
      5) Some kids who are not talking at inappropriate times will suffer too Group consequences are essential here. This is real life. School is the only place in the world where people strive to make sure that people’s bad choices only effect that person. Think about it: when a negative behavior occurs in a family, does it effect other people? In a workplace? On a sports team? Group consequences prepare people for life!
      6) Share our correspondence and our plans for your class with your administrator

      Okay, here are the interlinks. These will show you how to make talking at inappropriate times a non-functional behavior for your kids for much of your day:

      How to get kids quiet so you can teach: http://askthekidwhisperer.com/2012/06/10/521/
      How to get kids quiet during Silent Sustained Reading: http://askthekidwhisperer.com/2012/09/06/how-to-get-your-students-quiet-during-silent-sustained-reading/
      How to make sure your class is silent and well-behaved in the hallway: http://askthekidwhisperer.com/2012/01/25/how-to-make-sure-your-class-is-silent-and-well-behaved-in-the-hallway/

      The upcoming products and blog posts that you will use over the course of the next year to get the desired behaviors are as follows. I am going to try to make all of them available ASAP, although I can’t promise that they will all be available before the fall:
      1) The Silent, Well Behaved Hallway- Video
      2) The Calm, Industrious Workshop- Video (This will show you how to get exactly the voice level you want every time)
      3) Calm, Quiet Morning and Afternoon Meetings- Video
      4) A blog post about having to get kids to have the right voice level in the cafeteria
      5) How to Prepare for a “Tsunami Class”- ebook (I doubt that this will be done by fall. I may just do my first podcast on this topic.)

      I hope this helps. Let me know if you have questions. Once the kids come back, let me know how it’s going!

  4. I never miss your columns in the DDN. Today I noticed that you are moving on up in the newspaper world. Just read about you in the Washington Post.
    You are my hero for telling it like it is. It is sad that Fairborn is losing their best third grade teacher. I loved teaching third grade. However, if I was 25 years old, I would not enjoy teaching In today’s teaching world.
    If my memory is correct, you were a sub for the E. Bunny a few years ago – thanks again!
    I have a request – please combine your DDN columns into a book and I will be your first customer. My grandchildren may need those books when they parent my great grandchildren.
    Best wishes to you and your family.
    Remember that you are my hero!
    Marilyn Foskuhl
    Former teacher and counselor at Five Points Elementary

    • Thanks, Marilyn. It means so much for one of the greats from Fairborn Primary School to recognize my efforts, although I would say that I am far from being the best 3rd grade teacher at FPS. I would nominate Jessica Ervin for that high honor! I would love to make the column into a book. It is something to consider for the future. If you ever need a substitute Easter Bunny, I am always available! Thanks, again.

  5. I applaud your outreach efforts via this blog. If I had had this sort of practical instruction during my education degree from Youngstown State University, I probably would have never quit teaching. I read your letter to the Ohio Governor et al which was in the Washington Post today (I live in DC now and work for the US Government (who could also use benefit from some of the methods in your blog 😉 and I wish you the best as you leave your post in 3rd grade. Your blog should be required reading for every elementary teach in the US.

  6. Loved your article concerning Ohio education. I retired this past year after 36/1/2 years because of Kasich and his ODE/Battel For Kids cronies.
    Was a principal the last 12 years, the last 2 have been hell with OTES, SLO’s TBT, BLT, DLT. It really is just two letters BS.
    Thanks for your article, it really hit the nail on the head.

  7. Your Washington Post article brought tears to my eyes. I am a third grade teacher and you expressed my feelings about my job very eloquently. Thank you. I plan to retire in four years. Not because I want to but because I cannot do what I love any longer. I can’t keep up and I can’t continue to watch my students and my family suffer.

    • Heather, you are not alone. We are all in this together. I have tried to help us teachers with my column. The only other way that I can help is by showing you how to use management strategies to take great care of yourself and be strict, calm and loving with your students (and kids at home if you have any). You can click on “Parent Blog” or “Educator Blog” to see my content!

  8. Sir, my future sister in law’s child is showing signs of ADHD. This could primarily be caused by the fact that the child’s mother(my sis in law to be) has been suffering from hormonal imbalance and OCD for nearly 6 years now. She is under medical treatment and so the child is almost always with his grandmother. Is there anyway I can help this child as my heart goes out to him and it is evident that the grandmother hasn’t really succeeded in making any improvements in his behaviour?
    P.S:my apologies for the unbearably long query!

  9. Could you please send me or post again on your website the guidance on dealing with the eye rolling?

    I just read it in my local paper here in Liberty Twp and wanted to scan it but it was thrown out before I could.


    Scott or Dad to Andie (my chief eye roller) Emilie and Dylan

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